Romance, slow dance and BDSM
This story combines the experiences of a female client and a male escort.
Stephanie is a 38-year-old woman with cerebral palsy (CP) and a full time wheelchair user.
Holden is a straight male escort on the Touching Base referral list.
(Names have been changed)
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Stephanie: I reached out to Touching Base and filled out a referral for a sex worker because I needed my sexual needs met. Touching Base emailed me a list of contact details of all the male sex workers that fit under the description I gave them. After reading each profile I came across a sex worker we’ll call Holden.
After reading “I am an old fashioned gentleman with a chest of hair you can run your fingers through”, I was SOLD!
I met Holden in April of 2021. The first time I met him was at a hotel in the city. I was nervous leading up to this night but from the moment we said “Hi” it felt like I had always known him. Holden made me feel really comfortable and treated me how a woman should be treated.
He made me feel special and was attentive to all my needs.
Holden: I first met Stephanie at a hotel in the city. She had booked me for an overnight, something we’d organised for a few months beforehand. Steph had told me a little about her Cerebral Palsy via our email exchanges, and her main requirements due to this. That night, we had an absolute ball. From dinner and drinks in the hotel restaurant to fun and games upstairs in her room until morning.
She booked me again to see her again in a few months, though this time it was to be for a whole weekend. I was nervous as anything, it was my longest booking ever, and I kept trying to imagine or conjure up a variety of games we could play. Card games, board games, anything to help her not get bored of my company, and vice versa. But I needn’t have worried. It was Steph!
On the second night of that booking, amidst karaoke in her garage, Steph opened up to me on a far more personal level than I was prepared for that night. Some of this was beyond anything I could support her with, besides comforting, cuddling and kissing her. But after this, she shifted to another level of expression that she had been yearning to experience. And so, that night and over several messages and emails afterwards, we came up with a plan.
Stephanie: I was able to be myself around Holden and open up to him about my personal struggles, my family and my sexual desires.
One of my desires was to experience BDSM. I wrote a letter to Holden explaining what I wanted to do and I tried to set the scene by telling him how I wanted to feel. When the night finally came, it was FIREWORKS!
When I saw Holden in August, the orgasm was that good that I passed out, literally. Let’s just leave it at that.
Holden: Our next date night, we traversed some similar ground: lovely dinner, a few drinks, and lots of laughs. When her carer took her for a shower, I set up the bedroom with the props I’d picked up especially for her. I fitted the under mattress restraints, adjusted the straps for the bed, and attached the leather ankle and wrist cuffs. I laid her toys out, and added a blindfold and a leather flail.
Once Stephanie was in bed, and we’d disrobed, we reiterated things we had discussed earlier. Mainly, the safe word we had agreed on, her insistence that she wouldn’t need it, and my own comfort levels of how hard to push. I’ve had a few clients previously seeking such BDSM experiences, but I was nervous about how her CP may be a challenge to the use of the restraints, and if the numbness of certain areas of her body could lead to going too far with the infliction of pain.
By the end of our session, Stephanie was ecstatic. She thanked me for allowing her to explore this side of her sexuality, and for helping to feel physical pain that she could control. I thanked her for trusting me to enable her to experience and explore this new aspect of her sexuality.
Stephanie: Being a woman confined to a wheelchair, I have always had the dream to slow dance with a man. Because of Holden that dream came true.
One night Holden lifted me up in my hoist, put on my favourite song Tennessee Whisky and he slow danced with me for the entire song. It was magical and a moment I will cherish forever.
Holden: We have met up numerous times since, each time exploring more and more, steering into what sensations Stephanie prefers. Despite BDSM being a focus for our play sessions, there can be sudden changes to the plan. On one occasion, Steph was after a more intimate experience than our usual play, so I used her hoist to bring her up to my height, put on her favourite bluesy track, and we slow danced to the whole song. That dance, her first ever, is easily one of my favourite memories.
Stephanie: Over the past 10 months, Holden has become more than just my sex worker. He is my friend; someone I can trust and do trust. I will forever be grateful for the experiences we have shared together through my journey and look forward to sharing many more.
March 2022