Leanne believes seeing a sex worker regularly can be an important step towards contentment for people with disability. She tells of her journey of sexual fulfilment.
Leanne’s “huge step” towards sexual fulfilment
“I had had a lot of sexual feelings for about ten years. One day I asked one of my friends to phone up Touching Base (a charity that helps people with disabilities seeking an escort). They gave me John’s contact number. I was so nervous meeting John because I was going to lose my virginity and it was going to be my first time with an able-bodied man.
“I arranged to meet John and we talked for a couple of hours. We arranged to have sex a couple of weeks later.
“Having sex with John for the first time was awesome. I was so happy and excited that he had made me a proper woman. We have had a lot of sex since then and it has continued to be awesome. John is such a professional and a sweet man.
“This experience was a huge step for me. I lost the love of my life eight years ago and I never thought that I could have sex with someone else, especially with an escort. Although I have quite severe cerebral palsy I am just like any other woman in that I would like to have my desires met and experience foreplay and someone touching me all over my body. Unfortunately, I had to stop seeing John on a regular basis for a while because of my finances. This has upset me because I enjoyed having sex with him.
“This is why I would like to see the Government fund sexual expression for people with disabilities. They fund other services so why can’t we have the basic pleasure of fulfilled human desires and necessary needs. We can’t afford to see an escort/sex worker because of our pensions and some of us have high medical needs which we have to cover, therefore, we can’t afford to experience being sexually active.
“If people with disabilities see an escort/sex worker on a regular basis their outlook on life will be better because they will be more content and happier within themselves. We just have to accept that escorts\sex workers are offering a professional service – not a personal relationship”
Leanne – 2013