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You will find below, text and illustrations reproduced with kind permission from the NSW Health Department. The following topics are extracts from a NSW Health publication last reprinted in March 2003, called “Sexually transmitted diseases – and their prevention”.
Read these topics by clicking on the chapters headings below, or scroll down this page, or you can view the entire document online on the NSW Health Website (contains phone numbers for sexual health clinics right across NSW on page 44).
Sexually transmitted diseases – and their prevention
- Your Sexual Health
- Talking about sex and sexuality
- Some common issues
- Difficulty making choices about whether to have sex
- Getting what you want out of sex
- Five points to stay safe
- How do you know if you or your partner has an STD?
- What is a sexual health check-up?
- Is it worth getting tested?
- How to help prevent STDs
- Condoms & Dams
- Guidelines for using condoms
- Safe and unsafe sex
- What about oral sex?
- What is unsafe?
Your Sexual Health
Sexuality and sex are integral parts of every person. Just like other aspects of our health our sexual health needs regular maintenance to ensure it remains in healthy working order. There are a number of things we can do to maintain good sexual health and knowing the facts, making choices, and taking control are good examples. This booklet provides information on one aspect of sexual health - sexually transmissible diseases (STDs) and how to protect yourself from them. It is for people who may or may not have an STD.
Talking about sex and sexuality
Talking about sex and sexuality can be difficult and sometimes embarrassing. It is important to find people you can trust, to talk through your feelings. Friends can be useful, but if you find it difficult to talk to them, try contacting the sexual health service in your area. You have control over your body and you have the right to make decisions about sex.
Some common issues:
Difficulty negotiating safer sex It is better to start discussing the use of condoms/dams with a sexual partner before you're in a sexual situation with them. Statements such as "I always use condoms/dams" can help. Practice using condoms/dams so you feel more comfortable with them. Making sure you always have a supply of condoms, dams and water-based lubricant will ensure you don't get 'caught short'.
Difficulty making choices about whether to have sex
Feeling comfortable about having sex is very important. Learning to talk about sex with potential partners and being assertive about choices are also important. Talking with friends or a health care worker can make this easier.
Getting what you want out of sex
Each person finds different sexual activities more or less enjoyable. Exploring what is enjoyable for you and your partner, and talking about this, can be fun.
Five points to stay safe
- Know the facts, and discuss with partners
- Make a decision now, about your sexual behaviour
- Don't be embarrassed to insist on protecting yourself
- Use a condom/dam when you want to have sex
- Don't share needles, syringes, or injecting drug equipment
How do you know if you or your partner has an STD?
A person can have an STD and have no obvious symptoms, or the symptoms may be so minor that they are not recognised. Some of the symptoms that may be experienced include:
- Unusual discharge from the vagina, anus or penis
- Burning, stinging or irritation when passing urine
- Blisters, ulcers, lumps, a sore or rash in the genital area
- Lower abdominal pain or pain during sex
If you or a partner experience any of these symptoms, it is important to see a health care worker to have a check-up. It is also important to avoid further sex until you have had this check-up.
Up to date advice and treatment for STDs are available from your local sexual health service. A list of sexual health services in NSW is located at the end of this booklet.
Testing, advice and treatment are free of charge and anonymous at these services, and you don't need a Medicare card.
What is a sexual health check-up?
This is a thorough check-up for STDs and other sexual health problems. It is also an opportunity to talk to a professional health care provider about sexual behaviour, sexual health concerns, and to gain sexual health information. It is advisable to have a sexual health check-up at the beginning and end of a sexual relationship if you have any symptoms or concerns. Check-ups are also advisable if you have had a risky sexual encounter or unsafe sex.
Testing is catered to the individual and their practices but will usually include swabs collected from the vagina and cervix in women and urethra in men. If you have had anal or oral sex, you may be offered testing from these areas. You may be offered blood tests for STDs that are detected by this means. The decision to have or decline these tests is totally yours and declining to have them will in no way influence your ongoing care.
Is it worth getting tested?
While routinely offered at sexual health services and readily available through G.Ps, being tested for STDs is entirely optional and remains a personal decision. Testing is usually performed on coded specimens and the highest level of confidentiality is maintained.
Some of the advantages of being tested include:
- Modern treatment methods can extend the duration, and improve the quality of life of people with STDs including HIV
- People who are aware they have an STD may be in a better position to make informed choices about their lifestyle and future plans
- Knowing their STD status may help some people to decide on their safer sex strategies
Some disadvantages of being tested include:
- Some people may become anxious whilst waiting for results
- Concerns about confidentiality and insurance status
- Some people may misuse a negative result or think that prior risk behaviour was OK
- Knowing one's STD and HIV infection status can be stressful and frightening
How to help prevent STDs
Helping to prevent STDs is about knowing the facts, making choices and taking control. Knowledge of what will help prevent STDs is the first step.
Condoms & Dams
A condom is a thin rubber sheath that covers the penis and collects the semen when the man ejaculates ("cums"). It also helps to protect the genital skin from different skin diseases such as genital warts.
A dam is a thin piece of latex which covers the vulva and vagina during oral sex. It acts as a barrier so no body fluids are exchanged or skin contact occurs.
Make a decision now. Put your health first.
Guidelines for using condoms
It's your right to protect your health and insist on a condom/dam. Someone who cares about you will feel OK about that too.
- Choose a brand of condom that fits you comfortably
- Do not use teeth to open packet. Be careful not to tear condom with nails
- Check "use by" date
- Squeeze tip of condom and unroll onto erect penis
- Pull back foreskin before unrolling if uncircumcised
- Unroll condom fully to base of penis
- Always use water-based lubricant
- Do not use oil or Vaseline
- During sex, check condom is still in place
- When finished, withdraw while penis is still erect
Safe and unsafe sex
Because STDs are passed on in different ways, what is considered safer for one STD may not be considered safer for another. Activities that are generally regarded as safer include:
- Kissing
- Masturbation
- Mutual masturbation
- Massage
- Rubbing against each other
- Vaginal or anal sex with a properly used condom and a water-based lubricant such as KY or Wet Stuff.
- Using clean sex toys
What about oral sex?
Oral sex is considered low risk for the transmission of HIV and most other STDs. However, some STDs such as gonorrhea, herpes, and hepatitis B can be transmitted through oral sex.
If you have a cold sore you should not perform oral sex, as this can be transmitted to the person and cause genital herpes. It is also important not to perform oral sex if you have cuts or ulcers on your gums, as they can allow HIV to enter your bloodstream.
If you are worried about oral sex (mouth to penis), condoms can make it even safer. For mouth to vagina oral sex, a dental dam will help epminate any risk.
What is unsafe?
Sharing sex toys
This can result in the transmission of STDs for both men and women. Always clean your toys after use and before using them on a different person.
Vaginal or anal sex without a condom
This can result in the transmission of HIV and other STDs for both men and women. Using condoms properly will prevent the transmission of HIV and most other STDs.
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The above text and illustrations have been reproduced with kind permission from the NSW Department of Health, from it’s publication Sexually Transmitted Diseases – and their prevention - last reprinted in March 2003.